One of the best things about moving from Tokyo to New York was that, incredibly, I became skinny on the 13 hour plane ride. It wasn’t some newfangled liquid diet, it was that the beauty ideal had shifted internationally in my favor. In America, I’m a size 2 (okay, 4), small-boned, and taller-than-average. When I moved to Tokyo, however, after a good steak dinner, I can fit into an extra-large. The diet advertisements in America show women who go from obese to stocky, whereas in Japan they go from skinny to barely 90lbs, soaking wet. The last time I was near 90lbs, I had braces, jelly sandals and a perm.
As if being 115 lbs wasn’t bad enough, in a land of porcelain-skinned beauties, my Hawaiian suntan made me look like a wild savage from the jungle. Japanese women are so obsessed with staying out of the sun, they use parasols, elbow-length gloves, hats, and sunblock so concentrated, they come in bottles the size of a cell phone. For those unfortunate women who happen to get a tan, there are whitening soaps, lotions, creams and pills to chemically leach all pigment from your skin. Although I tried all the above, I could never get ivory-white skin. I cursed my abundant melanin production until I moved to New York. Now, there are tanning salons on every block and enough self-tanners to turn everyone in Manhattan the color of an Oompa Loompa.
Like New York, women in Tokyo have a reputation for being fashionable. Those stylish girls tend to curl their bleached-brown hair a la Farrah Fawcett, use enormous quantities of mascara, and wear stilettos so high, I should’ve become a podiatrist so I could retire at the ripe old age of 25. I just can’t spend 30 minutes on my hair, wrangle with false eyelashes every day and wear shoes that’ll only take me from my front door to the lobby before eating off my feet. Lest you think I’ve always been a Birkenstock-wearing, Chapstick-fearing bag lady, I used to be stylish (for Hawaii)…mani-pedi every week! Salesgirl at Chanel! Never go jogging without lipstick! But still, Tokyo girls are hard-core. I’m too old already to keep up...
Whether you live in New York or Tokyo, are as skinny as a preadolescent, tan as an otter or think a one-inch heel is masochistic, beauty ideals are as transient as the time zones that often define them. It’s so much better for your self-esteem and sanity to just appreciate what you have (and blame the rest on jet lag).
For a healthy perspective on beauty, visit the Japan C exhibit this week, where items that emphasize both beauty and health are on display.